A Positive View of Anger and Forgiveness
Child sexual abuse is a crime. It does not only break the rules of morality and society, it is also a manifestation of how ungodly and wicked people can become, especially when they are misguided and ill-advised. There have been so many negative impressions towards child sex offenders and abusers. The law is harsh when it comes to providing justice for victims and punishments for abusers.
But then again, all of us should understand that no matter how troubling and immoral a certain act is, everyone still possesses the responsibility of forgiveness. As Christians, we have to view the experience of sexual abuse as something that’s very unfortunate and at the same time a measuring stick on how strong our faith in God is.
Every victim of child sexual abuse has a different viewing perspective and response towards coping up with the trauma and pain. The difference is also the reason why some are able to forgive and move on while others choose to live a life with the burden of anger and rage. But if there is a strong Christian foundation and belief in God, forgiveness and the elimination of anger are easy to attain.
Nonetheless, the Christian point of view does not tell us that anger in general is unhealthy. In fact, victims of child sexual abuse must be allowed to showcase their anger in order to loosen up. However, showing anger should not be directed on destroying a certain person, say the abuser. It must be aimed at eliminating the trauma and eventually killing the root of the problem.
God does not allow us to judge others. Although the law provides a definite form of punishment for child sex offenders, victims must not preoccupy themselves on carrying out their own revenge plot against the person who abused them. If they do this, they are building anger towards the abuser. If they keep on thinking about revenge and payback, healing will never be possible. Anger and hate are two negative responses that will consume the victims up until they grow old. They will live a life full of misery and pain.
Victims therefore must view anger as something that’s needed in order to heal. As for forgiveness, showing empathy does not mean that they acquiesce to being abused. It’s just a manifestation that they are willing to eliminate the bitterness within them. Being able to recover means focusing on what’s best for the victim. Although it seems tough and quite difficult to forgive the person who abused you, it is never a demonstration or expression of accepting that justice has gone away. Forgiving is built on the most basic teaching of Christianity – that everyone should give room for other people to change their ways and eventually eliminate the evil within them.
Source by Cecilio Calizar