Relationship Advice – How To Tell If You Are In A Toxic Relationship
If you are reading this article right now, chances are you have the feeling you may be in a toxic relationship but you may be asking “How can you tell if you are in a toxic relationship?” If you’re not sure whether or not you are in a toxic relationship, here are some clues to look for:
– Your partner is very controlling as in always reading your emails, texts messages, or randomly checks up on you.
– They constantly put you down in front of other people or whenever they get the chance.
– You are always changing yourself to try and please them (this is a big one)
– Your partner say’s he or she loves you, but they act like it’s no big deal or that they could care less about the relationship.
Just being around someone like this sucks and can make you feel sick to your stomach, so the question is why would someone be in a toxic relationship in the first place? For what reason would someone what to be around a person that hurt them both emotionally and physically?
There is a cycle to every toxic relationship:
*The honeymoon stage
*The blow up stage
*And the reconciliation stage
When you first start dating someone (and this goes for most relationships) you are in the honeymoon stage where everything is perfect and glamorous. As the relationship develops, only then do you realize that you may be in a toxic relationship. Once that happens it can be very difficult to get out.
Many people is a toxic relationship are in this kind of relationship because the grew up being around one. So the majority of the time, they actually don’t know any better. Of course there are other reasons one might be in a toxic relationship such as not believing that they deserve happiness, or the fact that the just get joy out of taking care of others.
For many people, the first step towards removing yourself from a toxic relationship is to understand that there are other choices. You may be staying in a toxic relationship because you suffer from depression, or maybe you have a low self esteem and you don’t think you can do any better. Many people stay in these relationships because of those reasons.
The next thing you need to do is stand up for yourself. Don’t be bullied. Most people stuck in this kind of relationship are made to feel that everything is their fault. Once this happens, it can be extremely difficult to stand up for yourself and walk away from the relationship, or even fix the relationship.
Some people are able to walk away from a toxic relationship and get into healthier, more positive relationships. But it also important to know that many people are able to repair their relationships and stay together to rebuild a healthier bond.
Most relationships can be salvaged by taking some space from each other, or even seeking counseling. As long as both parties are willing to put forth the effort and make an attempt changing the relationship, it is very possible to renew the bonds and rebuild a healthy relationship. Before trying to salvage the relationship, you must first decide whether or not it’s worth saving, or if you would rather just walk away.
If you are stuck in a toxic relationship, just know that you have the power to change it. If you want to be in a healthy relationship, you and your partner must be on the same level. You have to take the power into your own hands and make the decision as to whether or not you want to change it, or walk away. Whatever your decision may be, just remember that you have options.